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THE POWER OF ‘NO’!

 

Had you ever agreed to pick some things for your neighbour forgetting your other appointments and then had to cancel your personal commitments to keep up your promise? Had you taken up a course just because your friends or parents forced you ?  Had you agreed to take up a job right after graduating just because rejecting the offer wouldn't be good for a fresher? Did you take up that extra pile of work to please your manager when you already have a hell lot of deadlines to meet? Had you got into a relationship merely to not hurt the other person or just because the other person loves you way too much?  Did you tolerate the inappropriate moves made by the guy standing behind you in the crowded bus? 

If your answer to either of these is 'YES', then I'm sure you would've experienced deep regret.
A lot of times we choose humility and say ‘YES’ when we should be choosing courage to say ‘NO’.

Nothing is worth more than the respect you have for yourself. If until you learn how to confidently say ‘NO’ to so many things, you shall always say ‘YES’ to so many things. The real summary of a regretful life is a life that failed to balance ‘YES’ and ‘NO’.   

Here are a few situations for which you can give a thought about:

•  Say ‘‘NO’’ to everything that doesn’t lead you to your goal

You will have a lot of distractions, opportunities coming your way while you are on your dream journey. Say ‘‘NO’’ to all those which doesn’t help you achieve your goal.

•   When you say “YES”  to others make sure you are not saying ‘‘NO’’ to yourself

Give yourself permission to say ‘‘NO’’ without feeling guilty, mean, or selfish. Anybody who gets upset and expects you to say YES all the time clearly doesn’t have your best interest at heart. Always remember: You have the right to say ‘‘NO’’ without having to explain yourself. Be at peace with your decisions.

•  Say ‘‘NO’’ to certain jobs

Yes, you’ve got into one of the best companies, but your role there isn’t what exactly what interests you. Would the company name on your tag give you happiness or the job that you do everyday? You’ve a high paying job, a job that is a dream to many, but it requires you to compromise on your dreams, goals, family etc. You always have the liberty to say ‘‘NO’’ when you don’t fit rather when the job doesn’t fit in you.

•  Say ‘‘NO’’ when you can’t

There’s a family get together and your partner wants you to take her out to a movie. Instead of telling a yes and postponing the drama, give a clarity by saying ‘‘NO’’ and face it that moment. When you are sure you cannot do something, be clear and let the other person know.

• Say ‘‘NO’’ to the social media race

So what if your friends travel the world and post pictures all over? So what if someone owns the most expensive phone? So what if someone has lost 50 kilos and is dressed in the trendiest outfit? So what if you’re not active on the social media and don’t have the trending apps? You don’t have to look cool to your friends or the society.  What is cool to them or to the society need not be cool to you. You can travel the world without saying a word. Love truly and still not let people know about it. Not all that appears on the social media reflect a real story. Don’t join the race and forget what you ought to do.

•   Say ‘‘NO’’ to the company of negative people

When you say ‘‘NO’’ to the wrong people, it opens up the space for the right people to come in. When you cannot change them or when it is difficult for you to accept them the way they are you, move out of the company of such people.  It’s easier to get influenced by negativity a lot of times. So try to keep people who will help you grow and believe in your strengths. A lot of who you become is defined by the people you surround with. 

Like Suzette Hinton said, “We must say “NO” to what, in our heart, we don't want. We must say “NO” to doing things out of obligation, thereby cheating those important to us of the purest expression of our love. We must say “NO” to treating ourselves, our health, our needs as important as someone else's. We must say “NO””.  You teach people how to treat you by deciding what you will and won’t accept.

Love yourself enough to set boundaries. Your time and energy are precious.  You get to choose how you use it.  ‘NO’ could be the ultimate kindness. 

THINK ABOUT IT!!!

My irreplaceable lover!!!!?

Like that spring night,
I still yearn to lie on your lap when I feel low,
I still wish to meet your eyes someday,
I still wish to run to you and grab you in my arms and feel the warmth of you,
I still check my spam box everyday to check if you've left any message or if I missed your call.
"Trust me I'll never contact you forever" you said,
I always trust you and your words,  for those are killing me today.
We may not be together now, but I'll love you to infinity and
Trust me too, nobody can ever replace you forever.